As life happens & unfolds floods of buried emotions & pain that lay deep eventually begin to surface either to control ones life or in the process of healing usually once the shit has hit the fan
It’s not a question of being loved more or less but the expression is clearly skewed to one side. This is a hard thing to witness to hear as it pulls at my heart strings, to watch the transference and damage lay it’s foundation into the finer of another human being. Not intentional, oblivious yet I can’t help think if we are parenting without intention well then, you fill in the blanks
To boast & sine proud of a child’s accomishments is natural
The kid that ran the 100 yard dash, excelled in sports leaves his parents glowing while the other sits in the dark growing resentment & brewing in misery we can all see the downhill path being created and the fingers shaking in re confirming their lack in ability. It’s not easy to be a parent no one said it would be.
She wanted to be dancer but her legs didn’t work her sibling soared to the top of her field, sponsors, family gloating of the accomplishments. This family was a shining example and inspiring to me because they adjusted & altered their approach yes they bragged about their child’s achievement and popularity but they made it a point to not leave the other behind they did whatever it takes to assist, support encourage both. It’s just one required a different approach to feel validated and to the parents it was a learning curve that was foreign to them but they learned & practiced in order to make sure one child didn’t feel left behind, now that’s inspiring. I have worked in mental health and additions for a long time and to some degree I must say that we most often unknowingly create the addicts, the broken, the……
On the good news if we play such a big part of it then we can change that, not by throwing our arms up in the air and giving up but by owning our part and finding alternative ways, sometimes we call it therapy
I’m totally inspired by the second story both children have gone on to excel in their community, feeling loved & values is not to be under estimated.
I’m grateful for the permission I received to share this
If anyone benefits by it great
If anyone has any questions, please feel free to ask
Thank you
R Zee
A rope can hang or be a life line