This is me processing it’s “just” my 2 cents as I work thru stuff, if it benefits anyone great.
The recent loss of friends via car accident and #suicide certainly has triggered a slew of emotions, memories and like any good catalyst has caused me to contemplate.
How uncomfortable we are when someone talks about feeling suicidal. The emotions it seems to trigger is our own, feelings of helplessness yet when someone speaks of wanting to die is a window some may say it’s sharing their vulnerability, a cry for help or attention whatever it is, is not the point I’m trying to make here. However I will say there is nothing wrong with it. For me since I can only speak for myself the most slippery area is when words are not spoken, vulnerability is not expressed and the fact that all to often another discomfort stop us or has stopped me from reaching out, expressing those internal feelings, grateful for suicide hotline, therapist and writing. I’m not saying this is easy not by a long shot. Certainly it’s a huge challenge to get out of ones comfort zone.
I understand wanting to die, I spent the first 34 years of my life pretty much daily in that state of mind upon hearing life is a gift, my immediate response was “where’s the return counter” either slowly thru addiction, smoking as I still struggle with, life style whatever or via the more obvious manner suicide, wanting the pain to cease. I can relate with that for sure. I am grateful all my attempts failed though I do have days where that sentiment differs.
Today I grieve the loss of my friend to suicide, I can’t help but remember those I’ve lost the same way in the past. I pray they found peace now and I totally get it nevertheless my heart aches when I think of the weight, the pain and intensity they were carrying while still here. I wish I had a magic. I want to scream out to all those that don’t get it that each of us has our limit our abilities and inabilities. The old saying walk a mile in my shoes, compassion, empathy and understanding.
Our levels of endurance differ please remember to be gentle and kind.
Moving on to sudden death considering I’m sharing as a result of very recent loss and doing so for my own processing and healing. It’s totally different and because I am currently so exhausted and emotionally drained I’ll keep it short, very short.
Sometimes often it’s so easy to get caught up in life. I forget that in the fraction of a second all can change, can’t it? I am still working at achieving and particularly maintaining balance. Taking time to connect, to cherish moments, to be present (as a person with a #disassociate disorder staying present is well…) to prioritize…
My heart aches the sudden unexpected throws me up against a brick wall and I step back. Yesterday was about taking alone time, today I needed to express even if I am still numb and in shock. I have an incredible urge to hug my daughter and those near and dear to me.
After having posted on fb with no details per se, I wanna thank you all for your kindness, support and understanding. Just in case you don’t know this, your comments helped me get thru the day. I am so grateful so heartfelt and feel blessed, thank you, thank you