I stumble as I try to think of what the title this, particularly after yesterdays ride and the aftermath vibration as a result of an initial appointment with a new #psychiatrist. My emotions stirred having worked in the field with those as dense as a concrete block within a cracked system with little to no accountability. It’s one thing, not to be helpful and a whole other thing to be damaging. I am aware that most times is unintentional that is not the point, the field of #SocialServices, #Psychiatry, #MentalHealth is not set up for the professionals benefit but correct me if I’m wrong but isn’t it set up for the clients, for support, help, to initiate change and growth when possible well it often appears that reality has fallen by the wayside.
Yesterday, while I sat waiting my turn to go in at the psychiatric office the women from Canada Disability Tax Credit office called me I wanted to see this as a good sign, since my hopes was to get support, understanding and at some point have the doc fill in the forms adequately so they could reinstate my status. The women I had spoken to a number of times from the Gov’t was extremely understanding and left me with a good feeling, you know when someone just gets it even if their hands on tied and the freedom to speak is hindered. So I saw this as a possible “good” sign but life has a way of reminding that noting is good or bad it just is and whole moly this is one hell of a just is sign. Out of crap there are often some great opportunities to practice and be reminded once again noting is good or bad, IT JUST IS.
So I’m now called into the office, as in any first appointment with this psychiatrist the standard mundane questions are addressed.
I’m an only child but I do have 4 siblings, is at times enough to raise an eyebrow or two. Let the ride begin; all standard questions within the field.
How do you sleep, not great I tell him, I go to bed early, I wake up at around 4 am then I go back to sleep and if need be I do take a nap during the day.
He ask him if I am on any medication, I tell him what I’m taking some of which he states he is unfamiliar with.
I’m shaking my head as I write this. My jaw hits the floor, not once but repeatedly. So the psychiatrist ask me was I ever #SexuallyAbused, I reply yes. He ask how old I was, I tell him, he asks “how do I now I was sexually abused? WTF REALLY my first jaw drop smack hits the floor. I’m dumbfounded as to how to respond. I can feel my emotions gaining speed and raging. Gratefully I’ve had a fair amount of personal healing, therapy and I am currently attending @STJOESHAMILTON a #DBT program and I am able to maintain my composure, take step back from my emotions, implement #Mindfulness and the practices learned of @MarshaLinehan. The only viable response to the question without losing my shit was to say “how do I know I was sexually abused? because I was there”
This second round my jaw hit the floor so hard a day later it actually hurts. In vaguely discussing key issues, my past including the #HumanTrafficking, this man turns to me and said”well you must have been asking for it” Tears filled my eyes, I muster whatever it took to pull them back as hotter was no way I wanted to be vulnerable in the presence of this man. WTF does someone say to that, how is the acceptable way to respond to a totally fucked up unacceptable response from a professional.
He then proceeds to tell me I do not need anymore support or therapy, what I need is sleep pills. When I brought up the issue of needing to check with the pharmacist considering the cost of my current meds cost are just under $11,000 a month, he was irritated so I let it drop and left with script in hand.
Since I’ve called #Sacha for support and the after math of yesterday made its way into next day, I often go on delayed reaction and I’m aware I’m not alone in that.
So for today in the midst of the weather storm, I weather my own aftermath of yesterday. Today I blog, I journal, tomorrow maybe I’ll write the @cpso.ca
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